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Determining Parent Visitation Outside the Courtroom

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In the case of divorcing spouses with a child or children, the children’s best interest should always prevail. That is the stated goal under Florida law, and ideally, the parents work together to develop a plan in the best interest of their children. With a parenting plan, the judge does not have to intervene to impose a plan that may not work for one or both parents; the judge only needs to approve it.

It is far preferable that the parents agree and work out a parenting plan because they know their child better than the court. The parenting plan should address how the former couple divides responsibilities over the children.

Florida Parenting Plans

The parenting plan specifies how responsibilities will be shared, such as healthcare care, extra-curricular activities, vacation decisions, and the visitation and living arrangement.

Any plan agreed upon must be detailed to leave nothing to chance.

Some of the areas of the agreement should include:

  • Which is the primary residence, or does the child live in two homes?
  • Who is the primary decision-maker when it comes to education, vacations, and extra-curricular activities?
  • A time-sharing plan to outline when the child spends time with each parent
  • What religion the child will follow, his diet, medications, and medical care need to be part of the agreement

Primary Residential Parent
There is a lot that separated parents can do to benefit their children. The former spouses should try and maintain a sense of connectedness, no matter how difficult that is. Flexibility and respect might be two goals in maintaining a sense of family union, despite the divorce.

Your parenting plan has determined the primary residential parent – that is – the place where children spend most of their time. Former spouses may have agreed to a time-sharing agreement.

Some things parents can do in the best interest of their children:

Security – Making your child feel loved and wanted should be the goal of both parents, so the child feels secure. That takes some work on the part of the parents. For example, refrain from saying anything bad about the other spouse. Even if you are talking to someone else, your child may be able to hear you, and criticism directed at one parent can undermine a child’s confidence.

Kids Need to Know – That it’s okay to love both parents. Make sure you do not compete with the former spouse regarding money, spending, trips. Do not question your child’s loyalty. Compliment the other spouse and be a cheerleader for their parenting.  Consistency will be necessary, as displayed by both parents toward the child. Be on time for any arrangements.

Be Flexible – Most plans go awry at some time or another. Your child will be less stressed if you are flexible and smoothly switch to a Plan B from time to time. Flexibility doesn’t mean you don’t plan, however. Be sure to keep a routine and a checklist of items that will go with your child when they move to activities or the other home.

Show Respect – Keep the other parent informed if a new babysitter or a new romantic partner is in the mix. Each parent needs to know where the child is during a visitation. Provide that parent with phone numbers and the names of friends. Homework assignments, books, clothing tickets personal effects should be part of the visitation, and it’s the primary parent’s responsibility to ensure the child visits with everything they require.

Mothers and fathers are given equal weight when it comes to child custody; however, the Florida Bar reports that mothers receive primary custody in about 90 percent of divorce cases. However, there are always exceptions, especially if there are neglect, abuse, addiction, or abandonment issues from the past.

Your Florida Family Law Attorney

Most often, divorce is not totally amicable, and Florida divorce law can be complicated. Complications can arise, such as enforcing custody when one of the parents wants to move to another state. Parents can use the children to spy on each other or make them feel guilty about being in the other home. One parent may indulge the children in buying their love.

It is time for both sides to put their children first. In a contested divorce with unresolved child custody issues, Crystal Collins Spencer has decades of experience guiding her clients to the best decision for the former spouse and her children. You do not want to make any mistakes during your divorce because they may be difficult to undo. Additionally, family circumstances may change while the children are still minors, and you may need to modify the parenting plan. 

Reach out to Crystal Collins Spencer at her Pensacola office at 850-795-4910. She also represents divorcing spouses in Sandestin and Fort Walton Beach. 

Sources:

6th Judicial
https://www.jud6.org/ContactInformation/familyLaw/Visitation%20Dos%20and%20Don’ts.pdf

Fl courts
https://www.flcourts.org/content/download/216000/file/Floridas_Dependency_Benchbook_FamilyTimeVisitationProtocols.pdf

How Will Parenting Plans be Impacted by the Coronavirus?

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Crystal Collins Spencer, founder of Spencer Law, wants to assure everyone that the office is taking your safety very seriously as we all confront the unprecedent COVID-19 virus. We are open for appointments and keep our office sanitized. If you prefer, we can schedule your appointment via conference call or video conferencing.

Parenting and the Coronavirus

This winter COVID-19, a virus that we have never seen, descended on countries around the globe. By February, cases were showing up in the U.S. and public health officials determined that since there is no vaccine and we have no immunity to this novel virus, social distancing, washing hands, and using masks and gloves was the best remedy to stop the spread of this highly contagious virus.

TheFlorida Department of Education decided to close all schools in the state after the spring break. Most families have had to adjust one way or another. For many, the dining room has become the classroom where children can do their homework or receive lessons virtually through their school district.

We hope you and your co-parent are on the same page about stopping the spread of COVID-19. Spencer Law realizes some of your plans for co-parenting might have to be adjusted to best serve the safety of the children and all family members.

Parents are now multi-tasking as never before. While some still work remotely from their computer, they take on the job of being a teacher, keep the kids entertained, out of trouble, and away from others. Since children are basically social creatures, that is an exceedingly difficult task.

Couple that with being a single parent, and the demand on parents is something no one ever expected. Until we know otherwise, children too can contract the virus, so social distancing is very much advised.

While we can’t be certain just how long schools will be closed, the goal is to open campuses before the fall season. In the meantime, long-distance learning has been implemented with a degree of success.

Parenting Plans

For now, the most organized parents seem to be coping the best.  If you do not have to return to work but can focus on your children, you will want to oversee the following:

* Time with virtual education – Most school systems have adapted well to this type of learning even offering one-on-one Zoom meetings with the child alone and with the classroom as a whole.

* Time Outside – this can be accomplished by taking a walk, a bicycle ride, or finding a nearby green area to commune with nature. This is especially helpful to children who have a very short attention span.

*Time for Projects- This can include learning how to cook, making something like a doll house, a wagon, or a tent. Get creative and encourage their creativity.

Custody Orders

At this time of social distancing, custody orders should not be altered unless you and your ex disagree.

Generally speaking, the courts will not alter visitation unless you have valid concerns such as:

  • Your ex is exhibiting symptoms of COVID-19
  • Your ex has been exposed to COVID-19 or has been with someone confirmed to have the virus
  • Your ex has a high-risk job that likely has led to his exposure such as working in a prison or a meat packing plant.

If your child has an underlying health issue such as a preexisting condition or autoimmune issues, it would be a risk to send him or her to be with the other parent and the court may agree to modify visits for a period of time. Spencer Law may be able to help you seek a temporary change to custody if you cannot agree on your own. FaceTime, cards, text messages can also be arranged with the other parent as possible substitutes for an in-person visit.

We hope parents agree about the seriousness of this virus and you do all you can to keep your kids safe and healthy.   

Until everything opens up again, Spencer Law can still file your case electronically and we are available for consultations electronically as well. We are still fully operational and ready to serve the needs of our clients. Call our Pensacola office at 850-795-4910 or message us online for a consultation.